How Much Should De-Stressing Your Life Cost?

by Marie on December 2, 2013 · 2 comments

We all have stressors. Some of them are the little nagging ones, like getting to daycare on time to pick up the kids and avoid extra charges. Others are huge mountains, such as when we lose our job or our health starts failing.

Stress is incredibly bad for your health, not to mention your peace of mind!

There are ways to avoid stress, but at what cost?

Would you buy someone a house to avoid stress?

I know someone who has a sibling who is on the road to homelessness. For years, that sibling lived off of parents and assets inherited from parents, even to the extent of living in their home for 30 plus years. Money has run out, yet the sibling won’t (or can’t) get a job to support himself. For 6 years he neglected to pay the real estate taxes on the house he inherited (free and clear of any mortgages or other loans). Three times he was threatened by the county to have the home sold at auction to pay the taxes, twice he was saved by relatives or friends. The third time, he sold it for a pittance ahead of the auction and is now looking for a place to live.

His sibling is actually considering buying a house in a neighborhood close to his long time friend and renting to  him, cheaply. The goal is to get that sibling into a sustainable lifestyle – so that his meager income will cover basic necessities without continual crisis. The stress his sibling undergoes at each crisis is considerable.

Would you consider this solution?

Would you enroll in an expensive or spa treatment de-stress?

A few nights in a stress relief spa could set you back several hundred to thousands of dollars. Even the ”most affordable’ (according to the Huffington Post) are in that range.

How about a $4000 massage at the  Grand Wailea, A Waldfor-Astoria Resort, Maui?

Here is one  that is sure to help put you back in balance (not financially though!):

“BALI: The Diamond Miracle spa treatment at the Ayana Spa on the Rocksin Bali is pure decadence at its best. The treatment starts with a therapeutic foot soak followed by a body scrub and then a soak in a rose bath using petals from 500 red roses. Following that, there is a Balinese massage, a La Mer facial using a precious formula of sea quartz and pure diamond dust and afterwards a feast of strawberries and champagne. The treatment is approximately $847 a person.”

How about $110 a month for Yoga classes at Downtown Desert Yoga?

Have you been to a spa or taken a pricey class to learn how to do yoga?

What if the price to de-stress is cutting someone out of your life?

Sometimes we encounter people who act so consistently vile towards us that we react with stress every time we encounter them – whether in person, on the phone or via the written word. Cutting that person out isn’t costly if you don’t have to work with them and they aren’t family members, but how do you cut out a co-worker without leaving or ruining your job? How do you cut out a family member and live with it psychologically?

What if you don’t want to or can’t spend a bunch?

Try these 20 inexpensive ways to de-stress listed in 20 Scientifically-Backed Ways To De-Stress Right Now

It even includes a simple trick to lower stress just by pressing the space between the knuckles of your pointer and index finger.

How do you de-stress and to what lengths do you think you would go to reduce the stressors in your life?

{ 2 comments… read them below or add one }

1 This Life On Purpose December 2, 2013 at 12:04 pm

Destressing is important and is a valuable expense. But even with destressing you can find frugal alternatives: a massage covered through your employee benefits instead of a $847 balinese spa experience, a reasonably-priced gym membership that includes yoga instead of $110/month exclusively for a yoga studio.

If destressing puts you into debt it will lead to more stress down the road!


2 Crystal @ Prairie Ecothrifter December 4, 2013 at 8:29 pm

I’m a generally selfish person that enjoys helping others as long as it doesn’t affect my day-to-day life much. I will literally stop talking to or even seeing anybody, friend or family member, that puts me in a bad situation emotionally or financially. So in your scenario, it’s definitely a personal choice. I would not buy the sibling a place to live (even with low rent). I would pretty much ignore the fact that I had that sibling to start with. It’s harsh and not everyone can turn things off like that. Not sure if it’s actually a good thing for me to be able to do…maybe there will be long-term affects on my psyche…I don’t know.


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